HEALING PROCESS

Healing entails connecting the pain to its source, i.e., the actual childhood event. Healing occurs when the person completely feels the painful emotion related to the event. This process can take place as many times as needed.

But why do we need to re-live painful childhood experiences in order to heal? The repressed emotion, once relived, does not cause pain because it disintegrates. Thus, a person who is always afraid of abandonment no longer feels that way when the hours of solitude of childhood are relived. Repression looses its purpose and becomes useless since this feeling of fear looses all of its importance when it arrives at the conscious level. Feeling the pain rather than suppressing it has its remarkable effects that last a lifetime.

Naturally and without any effort, the attitudes and behaviours change because they cease to be unconsciously at the service of repression. Liberated by the draining and constant demands of childhood needs, the adult can work towards satisfying the real present need, the needs of an adult. More and more the person can take the control of his life.

The amount of energy, in the form of tension, required to keep painful emotions repressed is liberated. Consequently it stops affecting the body's functions physically and psychologically. Tension in the body is lessened and all the psychosomatic symptoms dissipate. The person feels more and more alive.

The past is history. It is no longer projected in current circumstances as the person stops perceiving the present through the deforming glasses of unfulfilled childhood needs. Thus, the person is more and more conscious of reality. The person now discovers the freedom to become the person he was originally and the joy to be more and more himself.